Attracted to a married man..... Not sure whether to be happy or angry at myself?????

Having these feelings isn't a bad thing. It just means you're alive emotionally. The fact that he is married and you know it is a plus. The problem comes in on whether or not you act on these feelings. You having come out of a bad relationship clears up to you what you don't want in a relationship. The simple act of him bringing you a plate is probably something you have not experienced in a while. Don't confuse common courtesy for an overture. From what you describe, your situation is not that uncommon. The feelings should p and you two will be very good friends. To help yourself get over these stong feelings try to meet others. As for being angry or glad? Be happy you have normal, healthy reactions. You have nothing to be angry about as long as you don't act on these feelings. Do not make any suggestive remarks,subtle or otherwise. If you keep your head about you, you will have no problem.