I think my husband is treating me bad, but I'm wondering what others think?

My husband recently told me he's going to start meeting with two of his friends at a bar every Friday afternoon and then be home around the usual time (But groggy from drinking, of course--so much for going out Friday night.) Last Friday I happened to be in the area of the bar where he was, 3 miles away. I had ridden in with him in the morning to go to a conference, and my event was now done at 4, with just the janitors left. I called him and said I was ready to be picked up. He said no, he was going to stay at the bar with his friends for awhile. I said, why don't you pick me up and we can go back to the bar together? He said angrily, "No," and hung up on me. An hour and a half later, he showed up. Prior to this event there has been verbal abuse over the many years we've been married. There is also very little affection. Due to what happened last Friday, I haven't spoken to him for nearly a week, except when absolutely necessary, and he has made no effort to apologize. I am hurt to be treated like a second- or third-cl citizen, like garbage. Does anyone have any suggestions??